“Never cut what you can untie.”
~ Robert Frost
Divorce Is The Untying of Lives
Divorce is one of the most challenging events in a persons life. An event that if you have experienced it in your own childhood will most likely be one that you clearly remember to this day.
As the adult experiencing it in this moment, how you walk through this process will be a pivotal time for you and your children as you redesign your future.
During a divorce process different survival instincts are awakened. Most often the very natural instincts lead to the individuals interacting with each other in ways that are not driven by logical thinking.
As humans security and connection are our fundamental survival needs, when threatened we revert to existential ways of protecting our selfs and our loved ones.
Collaborative Divorce is a model of law practice in which professionals such as divorce coaches, lawyers, financial experts, and child experts, form a support system in which individuals receive guidance to move through separation and divorce in a holistic way.
The way I see it, the process brings together the experts of the village to protect the interest of the children and provide a container of knowledge for the adults so they can make the best decisions.
Due to the involvement of several different parties this process fosters creative solutions instead of position based linear ones.
The separating couple gets the opportunity to be heard by each other and work on a sustainable long term success focused agreement. This helps create a healthy post divorce environment for the children and all parties.
While my role in the collaborative divorce process is not that of a therapist but rather that of a coach, my approach is informed by my training as a therapist. In my work I use a trauma focused lens and integrate mindfulness as I support you as an individual or as a couple.
Together with your divorce team, I will help you manage and better understand your emotions and reactions to the current situation, provide skills for conflict resolution, as well as work on a parenting plan treating the best interest of your children as priority.
Please contact me to find out more about working with me.
More information about the collaborative law approach to divorce can be found at the website of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, at: www.collaborativepractice.com.